Who's In Control? Where does the power lie?

Where the power over your life lies, that is also where the control to make it do whatever wills the holder of the power wishes. 

If the control of your life is within you, you will feel powerful and in control.

If the control over you lies in the hands of others, then you will feel powerless and helpless, and will always feel pushed and pulled to get things done for others.

Also, when the power is on the inside, you focus on using it in an outward manner outside yourself.

But when the power is in the hands of others, you focus on the powerless inner you and inward focus amplifies the things we feel that is wrong within our lives, leading to depression, sickness, lashing out at the people close by, and maybe even premature death.