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Improving Your Results

Improving your results
Today I have on my coaching hat, and I wanted you to understand who I am, what I’m doing and why I’m doing it. 
 
First, we have to start with why. I feel God has shown me my place in this world. Every spiritual test I’ve taken has been towards teaching, and with that, coaching and training has been ingrained in my being. Now, here’s the why: You. For me to make this world a better place, I shine my light in helping you find the results you are looking for. 
 
That’s the simple answer: I want to help you get to where you want to be, to your best self. 
 
Here is the how. 
We only retain about 17% of what we’re taught. That 17% is what makes it from the conscious to the subconscious. That number doesn’t seem like a lot, but from that, (what you know you know) you make your decisions, actions, and automatic behaviors. 
 
A coach is special. A coach leads and guides on a conscious and subconscious level. The Coachee usually is attentive and will listen on both levels, and will try actions and behaviors on the suggestion of the coach. 
 
So my job and what I try to do is improve quality of thought, inspire your thoughts to aspire to higher achievements, yielding greater results for you to be the best version of yourself and for you to live your best life. 
 
My purpose is being fulfilled when I’m helping people fulfill theirs. 
 
My process for coaching looks like this:
Inspired Thoughts -> Meaningful Actions -> Desired Results. 
 
My scriptures I’m standing on this year is this:
“We plan the way we want to live, but only GOD makes us able to live it. 
(So,) Put GOD in charge of your work, then what you’ve planned will take place.”
Proverbs 16:9,3 MSG

Faith Determination

Faith Determination 
 
Law of Determination: your ability to endure through setbacks and adversity is a measure of the belief you have in yourself and in your ability to succeed.
 
For determination and persistence to work for you, you have to know who you are, and have the faith that you are walking in what you are supposed to be doing. The moment you start to doubt in any of the two, that’s the moment your plans start to break down and fail. 
 
So looking at Dr. King, how did he do it? How did what he believe in outlast him? I think a major problem element to his success was his belief in non-violence. Look at how his marches caused people to look at their walk in protest, but also their walks with God too. 
 
The pledge of nonviolence written by Martin Luther King Jr., and signed by his marchers, 1963
As you prepare to march meditate on the life and teachings of Jesus
Remember the nonviolent movement seeks justice and reconciliation - not victory.
Walk and talk in the manner of love; for God is love.
Pray daily to be used by God that all men and women might be free.
Sacrifice personal wishes that all might be free.
Observe with friend and foes the ordinary rules of courtesy.
Perform regular service for others and the world.
Refrain from violence of fist, tongue and heart.
Strive to be in good spiritual and bodily health.
Follow the directions of the movement leaders and of the captains on demonstrations.
 
Marchers had to be organized and focused, focused on who they were, what they were doing, and why they were doing it. 
 
This caused them to fulfill the Law of Determination, giving them the ability to endure through setbacks and adversity. 
 
With this power, we can apply it our walk in this life also!

The Law of Persistence

The Law of Persistence
 
The Law of Persistence states that the longer you hold a belief in your mind, the stronger it gets, and like the Law of Determination, Persistence states that your ability to endure through setbacks and adversity is a measure of the belief you have in yourself and in your ability to succeed.
 
So, why keep going if everything seems to be against you? Why the fight? 
I think in the back of your mind you know that God has called you to do and be something great. Along with that calling comes great opposition to the change of status of things. 
 
When you pursue your greatness, you disrupt the order of things. Everyone around you has a plan or expectation for you, to serve in their purposes and they’ll run you into the ground if you let them. When you start to say, “hey, I’m going in this direction”, now you have a problem. You're not playing the game the right way anymore. 
 
The thing you believe in MUST be backed by the faith you have in God, because He gave it to you, and yourself, because you are called to carry it out. 
 
“We plan the way we want to live, but only GOD makes us able to live it.”
Proverbs 16:9 MSG

Grow-Giving Principles 7

Grow-Giving Principle 7
My plan was to do one of the Seven Habits as a grow giving principle, so I researched last night and read, and read some more. Nothing seemed to fit the way I wanted it to. So what did I do? The first thing I should have done, sit down in my thinking chair and have a conversation. 
 
I asked, “what would bring closure to this series?”, and I heard the single word: Release. 
Actually out of the 50+ laws I’ve studied and learned about I’ve never heard of a law of release. But it sounds like one, and I don’t doubt for a second that I heard wrong. So I looked it up. 
 
The Law of Release is applied when you let go of what you no longer want and need. By doing this you make way for the new and wanted into your life.
 
Release the negative to make way for positive
Release grudges and forgive to make way for building better or new relationships 
Release some of the money going in the wrong direction to make way for wealth creation
The people and things that drain you to make way for the people and things that fill you and bring abundance
Release the clutter to make way for organization 
Release guilt to make way for joy
Find ways to Release hurting the best way we can (because hurt people hurt people) to make way for healing. We slow down healing when we focus and hold on to hurt. 
 
We are only here for a short time. 
Intentionally live your life to make it meaningful to you and do the things that will leave a legacy, never being ashamed of your choices because you pleased God, and you also pleased yourself. What else matters? 
 
“Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might; for there is no work or device or knowledge or wisdom in the grave where you are going.”
Ecclesiastes 9:10 NKJV

Grow-Giving Principles 6

Grow-Giving Principle 6
 
The Law of Reversal can be applied in 2 ways: internal and external.
Action & Emotions 
Positions
Emotions can dictate how we carry out our actions. But it can also work in reverse! 
We can intentionally do things to create feelings. We can take a day off to go make memories, relax, recharge. You can choose to make someone smile. 
 
In relationships, business, romantic, spiritual, etc... to understand the other party’s position more, put yourself in the other party’s position to get an idea for what they want, so you know how to deal with them. Clarity on both sides provides avenues for both parties to clearly negotiate terms, no matter what type of relationship it is. 

Grow-Giving Principles 5

Grow-Giving Principle 5
When we give, we know we things are given back to us in many ways, so today, I want you to be in the position ready to receive. 
 
Not so much giving to receive (that is called an investment), no, but because we know when we give we will receive. There is a difference. But many do not position themselves to receive at all. 
 
The law of receptivity
The key to effective giving is to stay open to receiving. This is why I call this grow-giving. 
 
There are 2 thoughts I have for this, the first BEING open to receive.
When I was younger I tried to never accept anything from anyone because I had to make it on my own. I needed to prove my worth. I didn’t want to owe anyone any favors they could hold over me. 
 
This thought process all came to a crashing halt when a wise young lady lovingly scolded me when she said, “Boy! The Lord is trying to bless you and you keep pushing it away, pretty soon He’s gonna just stop giving you the chances.” Can you imagine? Just being cut off? 
 
You have to be open. The next one is just as important. You have to stay in an open state to receive. There are all king of negative people and circumstances that can cause a heart to close. Mainly, the old saying, a closed fist never receives, is true. When you are holding on tight to everything you have been given, It’s hard to get more if you are closing yourself off to anything coming in.
 
The other thing that closes us up is negative people trying to steal or take advantage of us. I’m not saying it's ok or just let people walk all over you, what I want you to remember is not everyone is like that. Remain open to giving people a chance. Be open to give to people who need it. The takers have a way of taking away the desire to help anyone. But the Givers, focus on giving, not so much on who may be taking. 
 
That’s why it's important to be a giver and not a taker.
 

Grow-Giving Principle 4

Grow-Giving Principle 4
 
Have you ever thought, what does God want from me? 
Or, what do I have to offer people that would be of some value?
 
In my opinion, the answers are one in the same. Your true authentic self. 
 
No one wants to see the fake you, or the version of you that you have to make up, for simple fact that it won’t last, and the other thing is why settle with a fake when you can just go out and find the real thing.
 
Yes. The real you. The Authentic You. You fill a need. Your existence is essential. 
 
This is Principle 4: The Law of Authenticity 
It says: The most valuable gift you have or offer is yourself.
 
Remember this, You are a spiritual being with a physical body. Giving of yourself does not mean giving yourself away physically. You are much more than that. Give too much away and the body will break down. 
 
Real people need the real you. The spiritual you, the beautiful you with the wisdom of the ages, the you that has the quirky personality, crazy ideas, and dark sense of humor, the you that God has created and treasures. That’s who we all need.
 
The experiences you carry within you makes a difference, for weeks I’ve been doing this daily and I bought a new mic because of the issues with facebook live, someone gave a simple temporary fix, and now I have my mic back!  It could not have happened if i did not have access to someone who was more experienced and successful at what I was doing. And You are just as important to the process! We all need you too!
 
When we are able to get access to the you that we need, We effectively communicate. We send and receive clear messages, and we are able to change our circle of influence, from the person in the mirror, to the entire world!

Grow-Giving Principles 3

Grow-Giving Principle 3
 
Did you do it? Did you take the opportunity to increase your value AND increase in the number of people you are touching?
 
What you will see happening is since you are increasingly giving of yourself and touching lives, you are simultaneously build influence and rapport. 
 
The Law of Influence:
The Law of Influence says, “Your influence us determined by how abundantly you place other people’s interests first.
 
So as you see added here, the giving of value, the giving of yourself to touch lives, and now the giving up of putting your needs above the person you are touching, you have built a very strong bond, that those who are being touch will back your success. Not only back and support you, but also push you to do more and become more. 
 
The secret to this law is to not just think win / win, where you win and they win by negotiating terms, but shifting over to THEY win, and their win is also MY win because I could make it happen for them. Our success shoots 100 fold when change our mindsets from ME win centered, to WE win centered. I say we because their win is an achievement for both of us. 
 
This is why I’m pushing your one words and goals. I want to see you win. That’s a win for me too! 
 
“A good leader motivates, doesn’t mislead, doesn’t exploit. GOD cares about honesty in the workplace; your business is his business.”
Proverbs 16:10-11 MSG